A TRIBUTE TO PAT CROSON – by Barbara Drechsler

Many years ago, I met a very special person – Pat Croson.  At the time, we were in EPSILON Province, Washington DC based chapters of Sigma Phi Gamma International Sorority.  I was all of 20 when I joined SPG in 1961, newly married, and a new home owner.
Pat was a wonderful mentor through the many years of sorority…both in EPSILON Province and later in RHO Province.  She went on to become an International Historian 1980-1982, and rose all the way to International President 1983-1984.  From there, she became the International Secretary-Treasurer from 1985-1998.  Along the way, Pat encouraged me to run for an International Office, which I eventually did and thoroughly enjoyed every minute.  My family and I saw places we would never have seen when we attended Conventions in the U.S. & Canada.  Pat was always there pushing me, being a mentor, offering advice and being a true-blue friend.  It was a privilege to help her too, when she needed extra hands.
A friend is defined in the dictionary as “a person who knows, likes, favors, and supports; a comrade, chum, crony, companion, patron, and advocate”.  Pat was all these things not only to me personally, but to many other “Sisters” in SPG.  She was the glue that held things together – not the least of which was her family.
Richard and I were privileged to be considered “members of the family” from early on.  After a terrible accident, she and Tom unselfishly raised their little granddaughter, Marlyna, to adulthood, making sure she was always involved with her own mother’s family.  We watched and participated in many family functions as new grandchildren arrived and flourished.  It was an honor to be considered part of the family.  Unfortunately, I had to give up on remembering names as the grandchildren married and the family picture grew.  Eller taught her children well and Pat continued that legacy.
Over the years, Pat endured many health problems – she rarely complained, but was in constant pain.  We called her the bionic woman with all the replacement operations she went through and was ready for the next one if she thought it would help her ability to move easier.  Many times, I think I would have sat it out, but that wasn’t Pat…there were things to do!  She and Tom particularly enjoyed going to Nags Head.  They invited us a couple of times and, lo and behold, we bought a place in 1999 and shared the same time period (along with Diane and Bud Maraist).  This has enabled our Chapter to spend a weekend together once a year…a highlight for everyone, and especially Pat & Tom.  The guys fished and the ladies gabbed.  There was also her sewing club, members of which arrived after our sorority weekend.
Pat and Tom were a great pair – they would have celebrated 60 years of marriage on August 2, so they must have done something right!  They were helpmates for each other and doted on family (and pets).  I remember when I saw the house they bought in Charlotte Hall – me, I would have knocked it down and started over, but not Tom.  He and Pat worked hard on that house and made it a lovely home.  Juli and Jim are lovingly carrying on with improving the home.
There is so much more that could be said about Pat.  I will miss her dearly as will her entire family.  I hope you all will take comfort in the fact that she is no longer in pain and is probably organizing some function as she’s reunited with her mom.
Thank you, Pat…you were one of a kind.  I will always think of you so very fondly.  Rest in Peace.
My Love,
Barbara Drechsler

7 thoughts on “A TRIBUTE TO PAT CROSON – by Barbara Drechsler”

  1. What a beautiful tribute. Thank you for sharing your heart and love with all of us Barbara. Pat was certainly a role model for us all.

  2. Barbara, what a wonderful tribute. AND to you also both you and Pat treated me as long friends from meeting day one, such wonderful sisters in Sigma Phi Gamma. Hugs Mary

  3. Wonderful tribute! I have missed seeing Pat at conventions the last several years. The Zeta Sisters welcomed her with loving hugs, I am sure!

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