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Thankful November by Deb Juracich, International Counselor

November is the month that we tend to focus on gratitude and thankfulness. This is an appropriate time to to share my thankful for Sigma Phi Gamma list with all of my Sisters.
     Sisterhood
     Invigorating
     Giving
     Memorable
     Admiration
     Philanthropic
     Helpful
     Important
     Generous
     Accepting
     Magnificent
     Multi-generational
     Amazing
What are you thankful for?

“When given the choice between being right or being kind, choose kind.”

I love that quote by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer.  I try my best to live by that philosophy .  For a stubborn person like me, sometimes that is hard. But along my life’s journey, I have found that even when I KNOW I am right, arguing about it is never the best thing.  I have learned that backing down and letting the other person “win”, not only results in peace and goodwill, but in time, the other person usually finds out that they were wrong.  I also find that agreeing to disagree with respect and love promotes more respect and love.
The next time that you KNOW you are right about something and another disagrees with you, take a moment to pause and reflect.  Is it really that important to be right?  I choose kind.
Robin Pelton
International President

Hosting International Convention 2022 by Robin Pelton, International President

Hear ye, hear ye!
Be it understood that we are still looking for bids for the
2022 International Convention!
Several Provinces expressed interest in hosting, and the deadline of September 30 is fast approaching.
Any Province that would like to take on the pleasure of hosting your Sisters for the 2022 International Convention, please email or mail me your information.
Requested:
Province name
Proposed chair(s)
Proposed place
Proposed theme
Proposed dates
Nothing has to be “set in stone” at this time. I hope to hear from you soon!!
robinteach@sbcglobal.net

Prescription: Friendship by Debbie Henize

Did you know that Friendship is good for your health? I recently read that friends are a great way to improve both your physical and mental well-being. The staff at the Mayo Clinic reported…
Good friends are good for your health. Friends can help you celebrate good times and provide support during bad times. Friends prevent loneliness and give you a chance to offer needed companionship too. Friends can also:
* Increase your sense of belonging and purpose
* Boost your happiness and reduce your stress
* Improve your self-confidence and self-worth
Help you cope with traumas, such as divorce, serious illness, job loss or the death of a loved one
* Encourage you to change or avoid unhealthy lifestyle habits, such as excessive drinking or lack of exercise

Friends also play a significant role in promoting your overall health. Adults with strong social support have a reduced risk of many significant health problems, including depression, high blood pressure and an unhealthy body mass index (BMI). Studies have even found that older adults with a rich social life are likely to live longer than their peers with fewer connections.

Doctor’s aren’t the only people who know the value of friendship. Sigma Phi Gamma Sister’s know how important our friendship and support is to one another. We can each play a part in our Sister’s health. Reach out and foster current friendships and make an effort to build more. Many women are waiting for us to improve their health.

A Way To Remain An Active Sister by Diana Horn

I recently learned that my former Beta Omega Chapter in Dayton, Ohio, became an Alumna Chapter. Beta Omega was down to just five members and struggled to keep their Chapter active for the last several years. This makes me very sad because in the past, Beta Omega had been a strong and vital Chapter in Tau Province.

Sometimes when an older Chapter loses members (many to Zeta) it’s a challenge to keep active. But what about those Alumna members that continue to have the capacity and desire to do more? I suggest they consider having their membership reinstated to active status as a virtual member of Sigma Phi Gamma. Contact your Province Organizer and ask where there is a Chapter that provides remote members access to meetings via electronic means. If your Province Organizer does not have an answer, then contact your Area Expansion Member. Your AEX Member will be able to recommend the best Chapter to remain an active member in Sigma Phi Gamma.

It’s really not hard to stay connected. I’ve been in Indiana all summer. That’s nearly 1000 miles away from my Xi Rho Chapter in Florida. Yet, I’ve been able to attend my Chapter’s business meetings using an internet connection. I log on and suddenly I’m in the meeting. I answer to roll call and participate in turn, as I do when I attend in person. It’s great to stay connected with my Sisters, to see their faces, participate in the chatter, and be energized by our ongoing projects. I want that vital active connection for my dear Beta Omega Sisters and any Alumna Sister who desires to be an active member in our wonderful sorority. Please consider virtual participation as an option to remain an active member of Sigma Phi Gamma Sorority.

It’s A Small, Small World! By Linda Bullington, International Organizer

I was recently enjoying some family time, sharing a delicious breakfast of homemade Dutch baby pancakes with fresh berries and sitting outside on a beautiful sunny morning.  The conversation went around the table with each family member catching the rest of us up with what had been going on in their lives since we were together last.

When my turn came, of course I told them all about our recent International Convention.  As I was telling them about events that had occurred, my brother-in-law said, “I wonder if this is the same sorority as the one my Mom was in?” I said “Oh, probably not.  We are a friendship & community service sorority, not a scholastic one.” He got up and went inside for a moment and when he came back out he had two photo albums with him.

Imagine my surprise when I opened them to see SPG pictures from the mid 50’s & 60’s!  I actually got goosebumps and it was a warm summer day!  His Mom had been a sorority sister!  In fact, I had been a member while she was still living!  His Mom was International President, Audrey Yancey – 1955/56!

I enjoyed browsing through the albums.  There were photos of our 5 Life Founders-some of the photos I don’t remember having seen before!  Seeing names I recognized – Joan Dahl, Beverlee Herder, Marjorie Greene.  Of course, the sisters in the photographs were much younger than the sisters I knew/know now.

It was nice to read the articles and see how we still do some things the same now as back in those days.  I also wondered what those ladies would think about the advances we’ve made since then.

On a few photos they identified a sister as Mesdame John Herder.  It took me a moment to figure that out…back in the day, women were an extension of their husband.  I remember my Mom using Mrs. Rodney Taylor.  Funny how time changes some things, I never was Mrs. Someone, even when I was married! – LOL

Jay, my brother-in-law, said he will keep a few photos from the albums when he’s had time to go through them one last time, then he’ll give the rest to me to pass on to our archives!

You never know how, when or where you’ll meet a sorority sister, cuz it’s, A Small, Small World!

FRIENDSHIP – Robin Pelton, International President

I was just thinking today all of the wonderful qualities of my friends.  I am blessed to have many friends.  Some friendships are long-standing and will endure always.  Some are more recent and we connected right away.  And some are like acquaintances, but we have something in common and have things to share every time we meet.  I value every friend I have, from whatever part of my life they’ve come from.
Fun
Receptive
Inclusive
Enjoyable
Never-ending
Dependable
Sympathetic
Helpful
Interested
Priceless
These are just words, but they describe some of the qualities of my friends.  If you are already my friend, know that I treasure you.  If we have yet to become friends, let’s get together soon.  As Sisters we have a genuine common connection…Together We Are One in Friendship, Service, and Community – Sigma Phi Gamma!

The Honor Of Being A Pledge Mistress – Jill Pyclik

Serving as Pledge Mistress is a very important role for our sorority. The Pledge Mistress is the first person a Pledge will meet to really explain in depth about our sorority and describe the love that we as Sisters have for it. I can remember my Pledge Mistress, can you?

As I think back to the time when I was a Pledge, I still remember how I felt. Do you remember the feelings you had as a Pledge? Did you have feelings of anticipation in knowing that something exciting is about to happen? I sure did. Were you nervous? Did you giggle a little? Or did you smile a lot because you didn’t know what to do as you waited anxiously for the time of the Pledge Service to come? Those feelings remain with all of us forever.

As Marshal, I had the honor of standing with Tori while she waited to become a Pledge at International this year. It was a very exciting time for us because of the legacy that Tori brings to our sorority. The Pledge Service went well and Tori was thrilled to become a Pledge. And then we witnessed Ebony follow and take the Pledge of Friendship, virtually. Ebony lives in Boston, Massachusetts, and couldn’t be with us in person. But, through modern technology Ebony was able to join into the Pledge Service in real time.

The Pledge Service is now behind Tori and Ebony. Both ladies are eager to start down the path of study to learn more about Sigma Phi Gamma Sorority. I am pleased to serve as their Pledge Mistress. It’s an honor to guide our Pledges and share in their excitement. My thoughts easily take me back to the days when I too was a Pledge.

This is an exciting time for Virtual Chapter and also for all of Sigma Phi Gamma Sorority. I am happy to serve as Pledge Mistress for our new Virtual Chapter Pledges. Going forward I look to all of my Sisters to help guide and mentor, not only the two virtual Pledges, but each and every future Pledge of Sigma Phi Gamma Sorority. Will you take on the important role as Pledge Mistress for your Chapter? I hope you have the Honor of being a Pledge Mistress too.

A TRIBUTE TO PAT CROSON – by Barbara Drechsler

Many years ago, I met a very special person – Pat Croson.  At the time, we were in EPSILON Province, Washington DC based chapters of Sigma Phi Gamma International Sorority.  I was all of 20 when I joined SPG in 1961, newly married, and a new home owner.
Pat was a wonderful mentor through the many years of sorority…both in EPSILON Province and later in RHO Province.  She went on to become an International Historian 1980-1982, and rose all the way to International President 1983-1984.  From there, she became the International Secretary-Treasurer from 1985-1998.  Along the way, Pat encouraged me to run for an International Office, which I eventually did and thoroughly enjoyed every minute.  My family and I saw places we would never have seen when we attended Conventions in the U.S. & Canada.  Pat was always there pushing me, being a mentor, offering advice and being a true-blue friend.  It was a privilege to help her too, when she needed extra hands.
A friend is defined in the dictionary as “a person who knows, likes, favors, and supports; a comrade, chum, crony, companion, patron, and advocate”.  Pat was all these things not only to me personally, but to many other “Sisters” in SPG.  She was the glue that held things together – not the least of which was her family.
Richard and I were privileged to be considered “members of the family” from early on.  After a terrible accident, she and Tom unselfishly raised their little granddaughter, Marlyna, to adulthood, making sure she was always involved with her own mother’s family.  We watched and participated in many family functions as new grandchildren arrived and flourished.  It was an honor to be considered part of the family.  Unfortunately, I had to give up on remembering names as the grandchildren married and the family picture grew.  Eller taught her children well and Pat continued that legacy.
Over the years, Pat endured many health problems – she rarely complained, but was in constant pain.  We called her the bionic woman with all the replacement operations she went through and was ready for the next one if she thought it would help her ability to move easier.  Many times, I think I would have sat it out, but that wasn’t Pat…there were things to do!  She and Tom particularly enjoyed going to Nags Head.  They invited us a couple of times and, lo and behold, we bought a place in 1999 and shared the same time period (along with Diane and Bud Maraist).  This has enabled our Chapter to spend a weekend together once a year…a highlight for everyone, and especially Pat & Tom.  The guys fished and the ladies gabbed.  There was also her sewing club, members of which arrived after our sorority weekend.
Pat and Tom were a great pair – they would have celebrated 60 years of marriage on August 2, so they must have done something right!  They were helpmates for each other and doted on family (and pets).  I remember when I saw the house they bought in Charlotte Hall – me, I would have knocked it down and started over, but not Tom.  He and Pat worked hard on that house and made it a lovely home.  Juli and Jim are lovingly carrying on with improving the home.
There is so much more that could be said about Pat.  I will miss her dearly as will her entire family.  I hope you all will take comfort in the fact that she is no longer in pain and is probably organizing some function as she’s reunited with her mom.
Thank you, Pat…you were one of a kind.  I will always think of you so very fondly.  Rest in Peace.
My Love,
Barbara Drechsler

Facebook Sisters – Linda Bullington

As I relax in my easy chair I find myself reflecting on the sorority friendship connections made stronger through Facebook. I’ve just scrolled through and made comments on several sisters’ posts. One sister just became a grandma! She’s sad because she missed being present for the birth because her granddaughter was born a week early. Thankful that all went well with the delivery. And joyful that she’ll see her new granddaughter very soon. Another sister is home with strep throat. She works out at a gym faithfully, so I know her down time is driving her crazy. One sister is touring in my area. She and her husband went to a tourist site I haven’t been to yet, and I’ve lived here for 40 years. Yet another sister is vacationing in Key West. Quite a switch in scenery from her home base mid country. I enjoy staying connected to my sorority sisters through their FB posts. Because we are spread all over the United States and Canada, FB helps us keep in touch. We share both the joys & sadnesses of everyday life. At times we add a quick emoticon while other post draw out a thoughtful or compassionate response. Sometimes our posts include a joke or pretty scenery, but what really counts is that we stay connected. When I meet up with my FB sisters in person, it’s like we’ve enjoyed some of life’s journey together, despite living across the county from each other. So until we meet next time, know that I’ll be seeing your posts.